Recently I had the privilege to sit down with Relationship Expert and Love Coach, Kelsey Grant for the amazing conversation about relationships, self-love and sexuality, especially in the context of how our teen years affect us and she shared some really powerful gems that are helpful for women in every stage of life.
Don’t you just love when conversation flows, hearts open and you can feel that what’s being shared is not only helping the people in the room but the ripple effect will help so many more.
Kelsey’s wisdom and sisterhood approach to creating community and supporting massive shifts is palpable in every essence of her being.
Here are some of the gems we talked about in our interview that I’m sure will spark some insights and questions regarding your own beliefs!
- Women are connectors of the universe
- From a young age, we begin adapting to what’s popular rather than learning who we are.
- How often do we sell out for approval – we learn that young!
- Fear based sex ed vs. all the desires you actually have = the disconnect creates tension. From that tension, teens act out of emotions and hormones, not making decisions that are educated and respectful to themselves.
- Giving the girls the power to say “Yes” and the power to say “No”.
- Some moms worry about encouraging pleasure- and that’s about their own journey.
- Being receptive to pleasure is a practice.
- Teens spend a lot of time in shame and guilt.
- When parenting, ask yourself – What do I wish someone had told me at that age?
- Teenage girls need to channel and understand how to use their sexual energy.
- Understand what it activates in men. Take responsibility for it and it’s effect. Where it turns from fun and playful, to attracting “creepy” results.
- The parenting rule regarding sex “Don’t do it”, when it competes with hormones and emotions, there is an automatic fight against it.
- Swallowing up your anger is one of the worst poisons to a relationship.
- A conversation regarding competition & care between. Letting go of the belief of “Women can’t be trusted” allows us to open to the value of sisterhood.
- Let’s teach teens the value of intimacy, the practices of intimacy. Building intimate friendships, relationships.
- Intimacy even in eating – means being completely present, embrace.
- If we want to get girls out of the toxic gossip & backstabbing environments, we need to teach intimacy & open-hearted conversation.
- Appreciation for others starts with the appreciation of yourself.
- It’s not really about sex, it’s about loving yourself, loving each other, learning about the experience.
- Teens need mentors to talk about the mechanics – it’s not best to talk to peers or parents.
Stay tuned for more great chats- find and follow Kelsey on instagram @radicalselflove or KelseyGrant.com.
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